It is perfectly safe to have sex during your pregnancy without being told by your doctor or sister.
Sex won’t hurt your baby. A penis or penetrating sex toy cannot penetrate outside your vagina, and the child cannot tell what is happening.
It’s nevertheless normal to change your sex drive during pregnancy. That’s not a concern, but it’s helpful to talk to your sexual partner about it.
You may find sex very pleasant during pregnancy or just feel like you don’t want it. You can find other ways to love or to make love. The most important thing is to talk to your partner about your feelings.
If your pregnancy is normal and you do not have complications, sex and orgasms will not increase your risk of early employment or a miscarriage.
A orgasm or even sex itself can cause mild contractions later in pregnancy. If that happens, you’ll feel that your womb’s muscles go hard. These are known as Braxton Hicks contractions and can be uncomfortable, but they are completely normal and alarm free. You might want to try some techniques of relaxation or just lie down until the contractions pass.
To prevent sex during pregnancy
If you had any severe bleeding in this pregnancy, your midwife or doctor will probably advise you to avoid sex. Sex can increase the risk of additional bleeding if the placenta is low or blood is collected (haematoma).
It is also advisable to avoid sex if:
- Your waters have broken – the risk of infection can increase (ask your midwife or doctor if you are unsure if your waters have broken)
- There are problems with your womb entry (cervix) – You may be at greater risk of early work or miscarriage
- You have twins or had early labor before and are at the later stages of pregnancy
- It is important to use a barrier form of contraception such as a condom when you or your sexual partner have sex with others during your pregnancy to protect you and your baby from sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Good and bad sex during pregnancy
While sex is safe for most pregnant couples, it may not be so easy. You’re likely to have to find different positions. This can be a time for exploration and experimentation.
Sex with your partner at the top could become uncomfortable at an early age not only because of the bump but also because your breasts may be tender. If your partner penetrates you too much, it can also be uncomfortable.
It may be better to lie on your sides, face to face or behind your partner. You may also try to stay up during sex or get penetrated from behind while you are on your hands and knees. Use pillows to comfort yourself.